Valentine’s Day happens every year, and yet we find ourselves scrambling to plan as the date nears. We strive to find the perfect gift, a new place to dine, or a unique activity to do. The planning process is tiring and anxiety-inducing, but we’ve compiled a list of things you can do to make is less stressful for you and your significant other.
What’s their love language?
There are 5 universal love languages and knowing your partner's top love languages can set the tone for your preparations. These languages, as laid out by the author and counselor Gary Chapman, are:
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Physical Touch
For example, if your partner’s top love language is words of affirmation, you can initiate a FaceTime video call in the morning to share your gratitude. You can tell them their significance in your life, or simply ask about what good they’ll be doing today and let them bask in that.
Find a less-hectic day to spend together
You don’t need to spend Valentine’s on February 14 — it’s not a written rule. The 14th is always a busy day and it’s difficult to get tables. And even if you get one, it might be too crowded to do anything. Remember to talk to your partner ahead of time for this kind of arrangement.
Even if you spend time together on a different day, don’t forget to still acknowledge your partner by sending or giving a greeting and some flowers.
Consider relaxing activities
There is nothing better than a relaxing day as a reward for being your best every day. Instead of the usual wine and dine, why not go on a spa date! Get an appointment with an Onsen spa (Japanese), Nuat Thai (Thai), or any of the authentic Asian experiences.
Bask in the oriental feeling of the scene and the soothing music that comes along with the massage without spending on expensive flight tickets! While you’re at it, pop a Verma Farms CBD gummy in blueberry wave flavor to help you set the mood.
Take a class together
A couple that learns together stays together — or at least finds a new way to explore together. It has been proven that learning together cultivates growth in oneself and growth with their partners. You will get to explore how your significant other is like in a fun, learning environment, like a pottery or dance class.
If you want adrenaline-inducing activities, try boxing or Muai Thai day pass. High-intensity workouts will not only help you burn calories but it’s suggested that it makes happier couples, too!
Skip the movies for the arcades
It’s not easy to pick a movie. You want your partner to feel giddy, but you don’t want to look cheesy. But the arcades? Oh, the arcades will both take you back to your childhood and the carefree feeling from it.
Compete in a game of air hockey, play versus at a basketball game, or crash into each other on bump cars. Whatever it is, have fun and enjoy each other’s company!
Put it in a letter
Sometimes, words fail us when we’re right in front of our partner. Not everyone can whip up nice words instantly and upfront. Putting your feelings into words is the oldest and most romantic way to express yourself to your significant other.
You can let your most authentic self pour into the lost art of letter writing. Your partner might find it cute or even courageous in your show of vulnerability. As famous lecturer and author Brené Brown describes vulnerability, “it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it's our greatest measure of courage.”
Valentine’s Day Need Not Be Stressful
It’s a special day and you can surely plan a low-stress Valentine’s event by planning ahead for date night and choosing activities you’ll both love. Whether you go for a romantic dinner, visit a museum, or go on a high-intensity workout date, what’s most important is spending quality time with the person you most adore. At the end of the day, you’ll find more about your partner in all of these activities and cultivate stronger feelings for each other.